I wrote this piece in August
2020, after Joe Biden put Democrats on notice that he has Kamala Harris’
back and he expected all of us to, as well.
Now is a good time to think about this again.
HE’S GOT HER BACK
When
I was a young lawyer in a large law firm, the first African-American to
work there, I was assigned to handle a workers compensation case for a
corporate client. The employee had a strong case but the company
president was adamant about fighting it, so I represented the company in
its hearing before the Bureau of Workers Compensation.
After the
Bureau ruled (correctly) for the employee, I returned to the office to
call the client, give him the news and discuss a possible appeal.
When
I told him of the decision, the company president (who had never laid
eyes on me) blew up and yelled into my ear, “That guy is a dirty lying
NIGGER!” I was stunned. “Excuse me?” I stammered. “He’s a dirty lying
NIGGER! And everybody at the Bureau is a bunch of NIGGERR lovers. I hope
they all end up with NIGGER grandchildren!”
I felt like I had
been punched in the chest and I didn’t know what to do. So I put him on
hold and just sat there for a minute, heart pounding, as I tried to
swallow and catch my breath.
Then I told myself, “Just get him off
the phone, tell the firm and let them handle it.” So I picked up the
phone, told him I needed to call him back and clicked off. I went
upstairs to the office of the senior partner responsible for the client
where, shaking and nearly in tears, I told him what happened.
He looked at me for a few seconds, then leaned back in his chair and burst out laughing.
“That
guy! He’s such an old curmudgeon. Just last week, he had Bob (another
partner) all worked up by giving him the business about being an Ivy
Leaguer! That’s just what he does.”
Stunned, I tried to explain to him that the client hadn’t made fun of where I attended college. That this was much different.
“Don’t let it get to you kid. It’s not a big deal. You need grow a thicker skin.”
I
left his office and returned to my desk, where I sat not knowing what
to do next. A few minutes later, the partner came to my office.
“Oh, good, I thought. He’s figured out he needs to do something ….”
But
no. He was there to get the client’s file to give to another associate
to handle. “It will probably be uncomfortable for you to work with him
now,” he said sympathetically, as if he was doing me a big favor by
taking me off of the case.
I asked him if he was going to tell the
client why a different lawyer would be working with him, hoping that he
planned to stand up for me and tell the client he had insulted one of
the firm’s associates.
“No. He’s old and stuck in his ways.
There’s no point in embarrassing him …” And he walked out, leaving me
feeling alone, unprotected and unvalued.
Most people of color,
women, and, especially women of color have surely and on more than one
occasion, felt exactly as I did in that moment. It’s a common experience
to find ourselves attacked by outsiders and then betrayed by the people
who should stick up for us but instead just shrug and tell us WE’RE
making too big a deal of the whole thing.
That’s why it was such a
BFD yesterday when Joe Biden warned Trump and his henchmen that if they
come for Kamala Harris, they’ll have to deal with him.
“Is anyone
surprised Donald Trump has a problem with a strong woman? And we know
that more is to come,” he said.”So let’s be clear … Kamala Harris has
had your back – and now, we have to have her back. She’s going to stand
with me in this campaign, and all of us are going to stand up for her.”
When
I heard those words, I nearly cried with joy and relief. So many women
and minorities have had to stand alone in the face of all manner of
attack without any support from the people who should be standing by our
sides.
But that’s not going to happen to Kamala. Yes, she’s going
to be attacked, probably worse than any woman in political history,
except perhaps Hillary Clinton (who also got little support from people
who should have stood up for her). It’s already started. But this time,
she won’t be alone. Joe Biden has put everyone on notice that not only
does he have Kamala’s back, but he expects the entire party to circle
the wagons around her. He essentially said for all to hear, “She’s with
US. She IS us. So if you come for her, you’d better be prepared for a
fight.” And that’s a fight they do not want to have.
As VP, Joe
Biden showed himself to be valued and loyal partner to America’s first
black president, a younger man whom he was willing to stand behind and
support unwaveringly. As a presidential candidate, he showed himself to
be a champion, who learned and grew and reached out to a diverse
electorate. In selecting Kamala Harris as his running mate, he showed
himself to be a politically savvy, bold and sensitive leader, paying it
forward and helping to dismantle yet another barrier.
And
yesterday, when he put the world on notice that he has Kamala’s back and
expects the rest of us to have her back, as well, Joe Biden proved
himself to be an ally in the truest sense of the word, willing to wield
his privilege for the greatest good.